The Anatomy of a Bully: Analyzing the Autopsy

Today, working with people requires a deeper understanding of human nature and how the mind works. It has become easier and easier to deny the truth, to put a spin on the truth or to just shun the truth all together. Entertaining a basic acknowledgement that there is a problem and that problem might be me requires that I go outside and peer back through the window at a 360 panoramic view of myself. A look at an autopsy of me in a case study along with a simulation of the bully in me may open doors to a further understanding of how a bully is made. When there is no trust, there is Cloak and Dagger with knives flying in the dark. Transparency flies the coop. Walls go up; morale goes down. Many will feel the need to protect self through perceived self-affirmation in the art of gossip. These very acts will breed a lack of self-esteem and a lack of even the very basic self-trust will elude us all. Transparency must be restored whereby trust will be conceived and self-esteem can be built, there-by healing may take place. The perpetrator does not always need to be the one to rebuild he team; the targeted and the bullied can raise the bar. Self-trust will lay the foundation for self-respect. Self-respect breeds self-belief and the ownership of credibility. We need credibility in ourselves because this helps us to understand credibility as a foundation for building good order and avoiding bullying. Good order will balance once trust is restored. With credibility, transparency, trust and self-esteem as the foundation of an organization, bullying can be controlled and defined. Once it is defined it can be disassembled. Disassembling bullying is a skill to be learned and in so doing, the art of maintaining trust, transparency, honesty, self-esteem and credibility must be taught.